26 June, 2018
When we are calm and in harmony with ourselves, we are happy, grateful and cheerful. Prosperity comes easy and without hard efforts. Each of us has had moments in which everything is right in its place.
We take such moments as magical rather than standard ones. Why cannot we be calm and happy constantly? Our natural instinct is to be cheerful and playful. Let's think about what is typical for children and dogs (and for Carlson, who lives on the roof and constantly entertains his friend, the little girl). They play, have fun, want to move and enjoy.
Society has taught us from an early age that efforts and constant struggle are the only way to "progress". We assume that we have to fight what we want, and that is the only way we can get it, to be successful and happy. The problem with this is that we start pursuing our goals at any rate and with great effort. As a result, we forget to pay attention to the question of what is the price we pay and how far it is distancing us from our happiness in the present time.
We fall into the trap of thinking: "If only": "If only I could win the lottery ... then I would be happy." "If only he married me, then I would be happy." "If only my children behaved as I think is right ...", "If only I got a raise I could ..."
Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?
We determine our happiness as a result of unpredictable circumstances. We have to do something, get rid of something, wait for someone to do something and only then we can calm down, let us be happier. Somehow this thing never happens.
"Anxiety uses your imagination to create something you do not want" (Abraham Hicks).
We write our story backwards. But we must not forget that, according to the law of attraction, we get what we think about. Is it reasonable then to allow our negative thoughts to prevail over the positive ones? Of course not. We need to be happy at FIRST PLACE. That is the only way we can attract more happiness into our lives.
We should look at what we have learned at school or in our family that nothing is achieved effortlessly from a different prospective. Let our efforts focus on building the happiest habits and achieving inner peace and tranquillity, not pursuing external goals.
Let us set ourselves the goal of being happy, impartially pursuing our happiness. Do something that makes us happy. This may be a seemingly little thing. Let's smile at somebody, eat an ice cream, enjoy the roses in the garden and the song of the bird on the tree under the window, think of our loved ones.
When we get worried, stress is becoming a part of our daily life, instead of devoting more and more space to negative thoughts and emotions, it is better to call a friend, set a goal, or work-out at the gym, in the park or at home, until we sweat.
If worries or negative thoughts refuse to leave us - we can break them apart. First, we realize that they have permanently taken over our minds. We then define or name them - e.g. "I'm afraid I'm always late," "I'm not good enough in something," or "I'm afraid I'm not losing my job." We try to find arguments against - for example: - "Still, I managed to get in time for the meeting on Monday," "I'm not good at managing projects, but I can make everybody laugh at my jokes" ... After we have weakened the worry, we can write it on a sheet to crush and throw in the garbage, or we can imagine that we put the bad thought into an imaginary box, close it, and put that box aside to do something else like a task that awaits us, a little walk or workout.
The easiest and best way to give preference to positive thoughts is often to speak aloud and, in the mind, "thank you". To thank regularly for what we have, what we have achieved and what has been given to us in life ... at this moment. Every morning when we wake up and, in the evenings, just before we fall asleep, we can thank for the moments of the past day and the expectations of the new one. This will allow us to experience more and more happiness.
Life can be wonderful! If we believe in this, we will escape our worries and achieve inner peace and tranquillity.