Each of us evaluates ourselves and on the basis of our self-confidence is formed. It is an important factor in many of our life decisions.
Good self-esteem helps us a lot, it is a source of good self-confidence, it helps us to be positive, it gives us courage and helps us to cope with difficult times.
Do you know that:Over 70% of girls age 15 to 17 avoid normal daily activities, such as attending school, when they feel bad about their looks. (source "Brands in Action: Dove." Unilever USA. Accessed March 3, 2014)
Our low self-esteem can be devastating to our mental health, the decisions we make about our appearance, and accordingly the decisions about our future.
It's not easy to like every part and all of ourselves, but if we focus on the negative things and allow them to dominate our thoughts, we risk that low self-esteem will lead to low self-confidence.
Low self- confidence leads to anxiety, sensitivity to criticism, inability to cope with difficult situations and distrust of one's own abilities.
The most important thing is to have growth rather than fixed mindset and to believe that we can learn and change. Even if it's not fast, it's possible.
Here's what we can do to boost our self-confidence:
1. Take care of ourselves
Healthy food and more movement stimulate the production of endorphins, the hormone of positive mood.
If we exercise and move more, it will help us stay away from stress.
Here's what we can do: dance to our favorite music; regularly take time for our favorite physical activity: yoga, tennis, cycling.
2. Finding our strengths and focusing on them
We can replace our insecurity with confidence if we focus on what we are very good at. We can create a list of 3 things we love to do and do well. When we are feeling low, it can help us to recall our strengths and raise our self-esteem.
3. Help someone, care for others
We can take care for a friend, relative, or even a neighbor who is having hard time at work or facing a difficult situation. We can give them advice or just listen to them carefully as they share their troubles with us.
It is scientifically proven that our self-confidence increases when we do something for others.
It's a good idea to make a habit of doing something selfless for someone else at least once a week. This will enhance our generosity, and it is very important for the stories we tell about ourselves in our own heads. Being proud of what we have done will inevitably improve our self-esteem.
4. Trying new things
Our brains are really good at learning new things, and the more we use it to learn, the more likely we find things we like.
Everyone needs a creative escape: music, art, dance, games, sewing, cooking, web design ... All we have to do is go to YouTube and find free online lessons. All the information we need is somewhere on the Internet - we just have to find it and take the time to watch the videos or read the materials.
5. Surround yourself with people who make us feel good
Some people make us feel bad and that's good. We just have to make our choices and spend time with other people who value and care for us more. These can be our friends, family members, online friends, or neighbors.
And those people who are not good for us? We should know they are toxic to us and distance ourselves from them.
It may be a bit hard to do, but even if they are the coolest and most valuable people, it's not worth to spend time with them if they make us feel bad!
"Good friends, they are like the stars; you don't always see them, but you know they are always there." No matter what, they shine for us.
It is perfectly normal for us to have moments where we feel low, but the important thing is that such moments don’t last.
If we feel such signs, we can immediately tackle any of the five things listed above to regain our confidence. And we will know that we are “back on track” when:
• We feel free to be ourselves and do the things we like
• We do not worry unnecessarily about what others think of us
• We are not afraid of rejection or failure
• We notice the positive things in our lives
• We take care of others and ourselves.
Self-confidence is not the secret key to happiness, because there are many factors that affect our happiness. But building and maintaining good self-confidence is certainly one of the important steps on our way to happiness.